Remembering my grandpa's stories about going out dancing in the 40's, it wasn't really "romantic"? I mean it COULD BE, but it was also something people went out and did to have a good time with no thoughts of hooking up. So besides setting, it might also have had something to do with what particular dance you were doing? Say, energetic, playful dances without a lot of contact were okay because they weren't "serious", but anything more "intimate" (waist, shoulders) would have gotten a side-eye?
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Also, all this talk about dancing makes me think of one of my favorite films, The Miracle of Morgan’s Creek, which includes a lengthy sequence where the lead actress goes from dance to dance one evening (after which, hilarity ensues). I highly recommend the film not only for that but also because it’s one of the funniest movies ever made.
Like seriously, why isn’t pole dancing an olympic sport? This is freakin gymnastics. This is strength and skill. This is not sexual whatsoever. Why does pole dancing have to be so stigmatised as a sexual thing that only strippers do? I have great respect for all people who can pull this off. This is art and beauty right here.
HEY FUN FACT: pole dancing is known as something strippers do because strippers invented it. And that’s okay! It’s okay to have respect for strippers and the hard work they put into what they do! Let’s stop trying to take the stripper part out of pole dancing so upperclass white girls can do it without being ~stigmatized~ because god forbid women be sexual.